In yesterday's post, Mau reminds me that we need to be flexible, especially when considering the typical military man's schedule, which is not very family friendly.
I agree! (One of the reasons I homeschool is to take advantage of family time when we can, not when the school system and the military schedule happen to mesh.)
But I don't think having a routine means slaving over school work on Dad's day off. I think having a routine means ensuring the family's needs and priorities are met.
If I stay on top of the laundry every day, we can take a day off (even two) for family fun and still find clean underwear in the drawers.
If there is a set time during the day to do chores, the entire family focuses on getting the house in order, so that when we decide to go to a free outdoor concert after dinner, the condition of the house at our very late return doesn't make me regret that choice.
If there is a set time in the morning for breakfast and other things, I don't feel guilty at 630 am telling my early birds to leave me alone while I type a blog entry. I will give them my attention at 7 am.
If there is a set bedtime for the kids, there is a set mom-dad time afterward.
I don't want to be a slave to a routine, but I also don't want to be overwhelmed with basic household maintenance. Not prepping dinner, a family necessity, means not having a healthy dinner or means eating late. Not expecting my children to do chores at regular intervals means raising children with very bad habits and expectations and means having parents who are angry that the kids make messes and don't clean. Not doing the bills on time means paying late fees.
None of these options are good choices.
Later today or tomorrow, I'll share my schedule. I think it's fairly loose - has a lot of "margins" - and really just lays out family expectations and priorities.