Yes, that's right.
My previous post in which I defend my desire to breastfeed my child, I stated that I don't think the "issue" of bottle feeding versus breastfeeding is a moral one. I really don't think it should be an "issue" at all. In fact, I think the real issue is that it is an issue.
I think breastfeeding is the natural choice. I think it is the healthiest choice. I think it is worth the initial difficulties.
But I don't think we mothers need any more pressure.
I'm pro-homeschooling, but do not feel mothers who send their children to schools are bad mothers.
I'm pro-cloth diapering, but don't think mothers who use disposable ones are bad either. That's mainly because I use disposable diapers. Every so often I feel really guilty about that, but that is ridiculous.
I'm pro-daily family rosaries, but, again, I fall short of that ideal. Again, there is guilt. Again, I remind myself to be realistic.
Since that comment was left anonymously, I can not ascertain whether the author intended to pressure me into giving up breastfeeding. I like to assume, rather, that the intent was to ease any guilt I feel about giving my child a bottle. And I do feel guilt. And it is ridiculous.
Jill directed me to Danielle Bean's latest article at Inside Catholic which touches on the problem of how we women can help or hurt each other:
While it's true that no one can tear apart a vulnerable woman quite like another woman, it is equally true that no one can build up and encourage a vulnerable woman quite like another woman. We can't ever truly know another's plight and particular challenges. It's important to stand up for the truth, and there is a place for admonishing the sinner, but that never means using others' weaknesses and vulnerabilities to feed our own egos.
Ultimately, it really, truly doesn't matter how we feed our babies (or how they get their education, or if they wear cloth diapers, or if they say the rosary every day). What matters is that we love them and care for them and raise them to the best of our abilities.
As Danielle said: Let's encourage one another.